If you have been in
any church for any length of time you have definitely heard the phrase, "Love the sinner, not the sin" or it is sometimes said "Love the person, hate the sin". Today I wanted to share a few thoughts on this phrase. First let me put out the disclaimer that I think that God truly loves us and truly hates sin so I understand the underlying intent of the phrase. I think, however, that our (Christians everywhere) application of this phrase can at times be unGodly. Second, lets acknowledge that this phrase wasn't extracted directly from the Bible so we shouldn't be quick to defend it as sacred.
Before I get into the real issues consider using such a phrase on your spouse......
Nothing motivates me more to be a better husband than when my wife tells me, "Honey, I love you but I hate the way you mow the lawn and wash the car." Can't you just feel the love. Would this motivate anyone to alter their behavior?
I think we have all experienced individuals who shout this phrase on the streets and on television while at the same time ostracizing the very individuals whom they claim to love because of their sinful struggles. Typically this phrase is given when discussing those who struggle with very specific and often socially challenging issues.
Have you ever heard this phrase spoken in relation to non-Christians who struggle with pride or gossip?
So I think that by applying this phrase to "certain sins and people" we run the risk of defining the identity of a person by their sin. I think that if we truly love someone, as God does, we recognize that everyone is created in the image of God and that God-image isn't altered because of specific sins we struggle with. The image of God within each of us is hidden by our sin in its broadest sense -- the "stuff" that is wrong in all of us and in all the world.
Can we really love a person if we have pre-defined their identity as someone who struggles with a specific sin or type of sin?
Instead I think we are called and challenged to believe that all people (everyone, everywhere - no matter how much we dislike what they may do or don't do) are created in the image of God. That and that alone should be the basis of our relationship with others. It should be our first thought not an afterthought.
I think this is closer to how Jesus views us. If Jesus were to come up to me prior to my salvation he wouldn't think, here is Chad the Selfish, the Prideful, the Sinner (this could be a long list so I will stop here). I think He would see all that I could be through His salvation and love. He would look through all the sin and see the image of God in me and proclaim that as my true identity. It was His love that first motivated me to seek righteousness and not his hatred for my sin.
Perhaps if we were like Christ and focused all our energy and effort on loving people, God would work through that love to reveal His truth into their lives and set them free from sin. Of course I am not saying we shy away from speaking His truth but we should speak it from a foundation of love.
Rather than saying "love the person, hate the sin", why can't we stop at "Love the Person"? Seriously isn't that hard enough at times! We could spend a lifetime trying to love as Christ loves! If we genuinely love someone we will be compelled to share the good news of Jesus with them. In my humble opinion, the gospel will bring more life and freedom to a person than my hatred of their sin ever could.
Chad Quarles
Outreach Coordinator
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Selfish, prideful sinner who doesn't know how to mow the lawn or wash cars